So I think it's safe to say that I've learned quite a bit about myself over the past three years. Many trials I've been through, whether they've been self inflicted or not, have made me who I am today. It's hard to encapsulate all of my learning's into one post. But here are my top ten things I've learned, in no particular order.
1. Experience is the best teacher.
2. Life goes on.
3. Time heals all wounds.
4. Friends come and go, family is forever.
5. Realize what is most important to you.
6. Never change yourself to fit someone else's perfect.
7. Laugh at the small things that irritate you.
8. Be positive. All the time. (Easier said than done)
9. Be happy. You can CHOOSE to be happy.
10. Most importantly, be kind.
So some of these might be redundant, but that's ok. I guess what I've learned is, make sure the things I am doing in my life make me a happy, kind, and compassionate person. There are things that I CANNOT control. I can't control other's actions, thoughts, or feelings. But I CAN control my own. I firmly believe that if you stay positive, you will get through many things in your life that are hard, frustrating, or depressing. Now, I'm not saying you can't have your moments of sadness or you can't ever cry. We're all human here. But what I am saying is, make sure your over-all outlook is positive. Look at the big picture. Ask yourself, "Is there a lesson I'm suppose to be learning right now?", once you look at the bigger picture, it's easier to get through what ever you're going through.
Another thing that I struggle with is the "What if...." This again, is something I can't control. "Well, what if I would've done that that" "What if I could've changed it" "What if I would've said something" "What if he doesn't like me now" "What if she would have done that". All these what if's can drive a person crazy. Especially if you have an over-analytical brain like mine. When my mind gets into overdrive with all of these ,"What if's", I literally have to take a deep breath and stop myself. I also have to remember and realize I can't control other peoples actions, therefore, all these what if's are just a time consuming, stress bomb, problem that I'm creating in my own head.
So I'm not quite sure if this post even makes sense. But maybe some of you can relate. If you can, we should all talk about it. Haha
Until next time,
Nichole
